Did you ever think that Sex is the only thing that you and your partner have together that no one else can participate in?
Really. It is!
Everything we do in a day (lunch, work, banking, driving, museums, homework, cooking, cleaning, learning, studying, etc) can be done with anyone. Of course, we are discouraged from spending too much time with the opposite sex and I totally agree with this. But, if we really think about it, sex is the only thing in a marriage that is commanded to only be between husband and wife. We can build working relationships, friendships, groups and partnerships with many people in our life and they can come and go quickly or remain in our lives for long periods of time.
The only thing we have as a couple that no one else can intrude on is our romantic life, our bedroom hours, our sex life and our love making. That's it.
So, my point in this post is that, if that time is not a wonderful experience, we are losing out on a very large portion of our marriage relationship.
I can pay bills with anyone. I can talk on the phone with anyone. I can shop with anyone. I can spend time with anyone. I can occupy my time in millions of ways with anyone.
But, I can only have sex with one person. I can only snuggle up in bed late at night and smell one person next to me. I can only whisper soft love thoughts into one person's ear.
If I am not doing this....and doing this well.....I am missing out on fabulous moments and so is my spouse.
We all need these moments of fabulousness. We all need to feel love. We all need to feel loved by someone. We all need to be made to feel desirable and lovable. If these needs are not met in our own bedroom, they will eventually get met somewhere else. It may not be a bedroom elsewhere but it will be met in another way and through other people.
It is so very easy to take each other for granted. It is so very easy to get busy with all the necessities of life. We have lots to do. We have lots of good things to do. We have been counseled to focus on the BEST things in life and not worry so much about the good things and the better things.
Well, I propose that our sex life, our marital love life, our romance with our spouse is the very BEST thing we could possibly spend time on! A fantastic sex life will rub off on all ends of your marriage.
We have all seen the tender, happy face of our husband come out of the bedroom after an especially good night together. It almost doesn't matter what meets us later in the day or what we have to deal with, thoughts of those moments together will creep into our head throughout the day and remind us how great our relationship is and it won't matter so much that one of the kids isn't passing math or dinner isn't ready right on time.
Don't ever forget that your sex life with your partner is an investment of your time, energy, creativity, tenderness and it is worth any job that might go undone or any show that might go unwatched or any telephone conversation you might not have with someone else.
Put your spouse first, take care of him in the bedroom and you will be amazed at how fantastic your marriage can be.
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